I support you

I’m not generally the type to re-post videos and insist others watch them (maybe that goes back to my Rankin Inlet days when trying to watch a minute-long YouTube video took half an hour) but I’m going to make an exception.

I figure if word about Jamie Hubley’s suicide has made it to B.C., and all over my Facebook, most people who read this blog will be familiar with his story. But for those who aren’t, Jamie was a teenage kid from Ottawa who committed suicide last week. Another case of a gay kid being bullied to death. This time, the son of an Ottawa city councillor, not that that should make his death more important, but certainly has made it more public.

It seems every couple of weeks there’s another story in the news about a kid who takes his own life because he or she (though most often he, it seems) can’t deal with the bullying, the negativity, the hurt anymore. Sometimes it goes back to sexual orientation, but not always.

And that’s where this video comes into play. Because yes, gay kids feel ostracized. But so do adults. Kids are cruel to each other, and adults are cruel to themselves. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. I’ve lost a friend to suicide. I have had several friends who have dealt with depression, and I’ve had my own dark periods.

I woke up this morning wanting nothing more than to just cry. So for about three hours, off and on, I cried. Why was I crying? I have no idea. My life is good, I have a job, I have a cute little apartment in a cute little house, I have a bit of money in the bank so if I feel like it, I can afford to treat myself. Even yesterday, as I was biking home from work I was thinking to myself what a wonderful life I am living, and how lucky I am. But none of that shone through this morning, as I wallowed in bed.

What’s going to get me out of this slump is my friends. I called one, and she let me talk. I texted another, and I’m going to spend the night with her family out of town. Both were exactly what I needed.

And that brings me back to this video, and what this young man is talking about. Sometimes those three little words — “I support you” — are all it takes. It’s so simple, so universal. Sometimes people just need to know others support them. It doesn’t matter how huge or trivial your problems may seem, a little bit of support can make all the difference.

So watch this. Feel inspired. Feel amazed at Scott’s depth, and tell or show someone in your life you support them. It can’t hurt.

5 Responses to “I support you”

  1. Mongoose Says:

    This comment isn’t exactly addressing your point, but here goes anyway. I’m violently opposed to any bullying, but that being said, teens always find reasons to commit suicide. Before I think that one bullied gay teen committing suicide is a sign of some sort of widespread social ill, I’d like to see a proper study on the links between homosexuality, age, bullying and suicide – or lack thereof. Non-bullied, non-gay, non-rich, non-First Nations teen suicides don’t make the news much, but that doesn’t mean there is a lower rate of them.

  2. Jackie S. Quire Says:

    I don’t have the evidence to back this up, but I doubt any demographic is immune from suicide. Mental health problems don’t discriminate based on age, sex, race, religion or sexual orientation.

  3. Mongoose Says:

    Actually they do, to a certain extent, discriminate on at least age and sex. Since many mental health problems have biological causes, including but not limited to hormones and brain structure, they are affected by the physiological differences entailed by age and sex. For example, autism is 4 times more common in boys than in girls.

  4. Bay_Girl Says:

    Thank you for sharing. I agree that not only gay and/or bullied teens and/or minorities commit suicide and that the majority of suicides don’t make the news. However, your post was somewhat comforting as I’ve been experiencing the same feelings lately and the video was thought provoking as well. I’m glad I read and watched them.

    • Jackie S. Quire Says:

      This reply comes way too long after your comment was made, but thanks for sharing. A little support never hurt anyone, but can be hard to ask for/expect.

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